I am learning that what will make a good decorator is the same thing that makes a good person--being selfless. (image via
Habitually Chic )
The past few weeks I have had so much fun helping my friend, Jennifer, decorate her dining room, living room, entry, powder room, kitchen & breakfast nook. I write so much about this because I am new to it...and it is a dream come true!
We have gone down one road of what she thought they wanted....and now this has brought us to something like the picture above from Bungalow Classic....neutrals with pops of blue and violet (and a little zebra like pictured above!) But, I have learned that to get to what THEY want....I had to get out of the way. I am really just a vehicle to help them discover the "home that is already in them." It has nothing to do about me.
I do serve the purpose of "giving them permission." I think many times people really know what they want, or they do want to go wild in some part of their home. I think, sometimes, all they want is conformation that it is okay. (a damask stenciled bedroom....image source unknown).
If I were to push my ideally beautiful room, it would be something like this above, styled by Atlanta Bartlett...trademark spareness, whiteness...with lovely rustic touches.
But that wouldn't be them...and isn't that who it is all about?
She really loves, as she calls "the love affair I have with my chandelier".....this is true. I think I have succeeded in really loving an inanimate object. (my kitchen)
But, as we learned, this isn't her....isn't them!
She even is being an ideal, selfless wife. She is forgoing her dream (gray-violet painted walls) in the dining room....to please her husband who wants neutral.
It is not all about her, either. It is about a family.
It is about mixing a little of her glam.....(we're putting one mirrored piece in the DR)
with his masculine neutralness....
(a picture of a rustic bench we want to locate...image via
Simply Grove )
With the kids' playfulness...
easy-to-clean goodness found in a Louis Ghost Chair (I think House Beautiful image)
I think some decorators and designers are all about signature style. If you walk into a Kelly Wearstler room....you KNOW who did the room.
Perhaps there are some families who say..."I want this room to look like a Kelly Wearster room". I bet this isn't many.
I bet to have a long career as a decorator (which I hope to have!)....you serve mainly as an instrument that pulls the design out of your client.
What are your comments on this?
By the way, thanks for voting! It looks like I have a new project this weekend....cover the backs of the bookcases!
I have made a little progress with the mirrored stairwell...there are now 5:
Thank you, Homegoods! What would all of us do without you?